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Thoughts on Marriage on Our First Anniversary
Thoughts on Marriage on Our First Anniversary

April 17, 2016.


It’s been one year since my husband and I recited our vows in a tiny white church as rain poured down on the roof over our heads. The thunderstorm even blew out our unity candle (to everyone’s laughter!), but nothing could ruin our day.

I was nervous about really silly things…whether I would trip walking down the aisle, whether the backup plan for our outdoor reception would work out, whether the cake would make it in one piece. But the one thing I wasn’t nervous about was the man I chose to marry. I knew without a doubt that he was the partner I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

One year later, our wedding day seems almost like a fairy tale that I dreamed up…did it really happen? Thankfully, we have our photos and video to remember what the day felt like. Not just the wedding itself, but the feelings that came with it — the joy of having both our families in the same place, the excitement of our whole lives in front of us, the disbelief when the last guests had gone home and E and I were left holding each other and staring at our new wedding rings.

People told us that the first year would be the best year of our marriage. They also told us that it would be the hardest. As it turned out, it ended up being some of both.


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We experienced some of the happiest moments of our relationship so far. We traveled to Italy for our honeymoon, rode through the canals of Venice in a gondola, and dipped our toes in the sun-soaked waters of the Amalfi Coast. On a simpler scale, we settled into life in our tiny 440-square-foot apartment and enjoyed Netflix + Mexican takeout. All it really took for us to be content was a Saturday morning spent together in pajamas.

We also experienced some of the growing pains that come with a new marriage. We bickered our way through laundry, dishes, and finances until we found our groove. We kept searching for a healthy work/life balance, with E pulling up to 15-hour days as a band director and me working 80-hour weeks in the busy fall season. We stressed about how to afford a house and how to start a family in the city.

From the best moments to the worst moments, I’m grateful to have experienced the whole range this year. I’m lucky to have a best friend who sees all of my flaws and loves me anyway. I can’t wait to see what Year 2 has in store for us.


Kate + Emmanuel from Oak and Cypress Films on Vimeo.

Wedding photos by Justin and Mary Marantz

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